I really, really try to avoid making vent/social commentary posts in general, but I think this is important on a site like Tumblr where community and communication is really important… and I guess it’s just important in general.
This goes without saying, but you’re never obligated to stay around or communicate with anyone. Nothing is stopping you from cutting off communication for any reason - even no reason, because that’s your right as a human with free will. This is especially important to keep in mind with friendships/other relationships that are just generally unhealthy for you.
Please bear with me when I start talking about when this can go too far and turn into self-isolation.
Every relationship requires negotiation and problem solving. As someone who’s very happily married, I still have to exercise those skills regularly. No, this isn’t rolling into “try to work it out with someone who argues with you constantly”. What I mean is that you’re going to argue with everyone who’s close to you at least once, no matter how major or minor the issue is in the course of the relationship. If you and your friend/partner/whatever want to sustain a healthy bond, you both have to work together to communicate when things do go wrong.
I’ve met, seen, and known a good handful of people who have the worst time keeping close friendships, and from my personal experience one of the main reasons people end up that way is self-isolation due to what I like to call “Ride or Die” Conflict Resolution
“Ride or Die” Conflict Resolution
CS Definition: When somebody is confronted with a conflict or uncomfortable situation that doesn’t fall under abuse (such as misunderstandings, wording errors, and petty conflicts) and their first response is to burn bridges with the other party.
It’s one thing to keep people away from you that cause you constant stress or that you just don’t get along with, but it’s another thing to cut ties with someone every time a situation doesn’t go the way you planned. I’ve seen people complain about why they don’t have any friends - maybe complain that all their relationships go sour - even decide to call themselves jackasses or “hard to get along with” and move on.
Believe me when I say that if you’ve got a long track-record of your friendships and/or relationships going south, it’s not just the world around you. You need to review your own actions and behavior and ask yourself if you need to work on anything. You cannot complain about “nobody caring about you” if you don’t value your relationships enough to solve simple everyday problems.
In conclusion, it’s important to take care of yourself, but also keep self-aware of why the relationship failed. It will help you immensely in the future when you want to keep a relationship you know is worth it. (BTW, saying “I’m a jackass deal with it” is not being self aware - it’s making excuses for your bad behavior and refusing to correct it.)